Friendship

Isn't making friends weird?  Especially as an adult?  Not talking about facebook friends, but friends who actually mutually want to associate with each other outside of the place they met?

So finding people to talk to at work who don't hate you is easy.

In order to classify as a friendship, let's suppose the following conditions must exist:
1) You actually get along.
2) Person 1 invites Person 2 to do something.
3) Person 2 invites Person 1 to do something.
4) You talk about more than the venue where you met (i.e., work/school/church).
5) Repeat

However, let's suppose the following rule is true:
You don't have to be friends with somebody you don't want to be friends with (an old friend told me this a few years ago).  So how do you know that both sides actually want to be friends, and one isn't just going along with it to be nice?

On the flip side, you typically have to be a friend to make friends, or rather, you have to go out of your way to make the first step.

On the other hand, suppose somebody makes the first step toward friendship with you, but you don't want to?  Aaaawkward.

On the other other hand, everybody needs a friend.  So are you going to turn your back on them?   Duhn-duhn-duhn.  (Yes, I know nobody's said that since 2007.)  Unless they're a complete jerk.........

Let's also suppose the following is true, which isn't necessarily true being a married adult with children:
You have time for friends.  They have time for you.  So just because you don't have time for each other does that mean you wouldn't have otherwise been good friends?

So put all of these things together, and it's no surprise that since school, you haven't made more than a handful of new friends.

Of course, if you don't waste your time writing dumb blogs, you might have time after all.